Thursday, March 29, 2012

When Telling the Truth: You Can't Always be Nice

I had an incident recently in which someone that I was close with acted terribly, with what I can only assume were selfish and bad intentions and above all unfairly. Whatever the reasons were, it was a disappointment to me. 

I was confronted with a choice, and I made the one I believed to be the morally right and conscionable decision. I told the truth. There is no recourse against you for telling the truth, even if someone else doesn't want it to be told. For as nice as I am, I have an incredibly strong sense of self, and I know that what I did in response to their actions was the most appropriate thing to do given the circumstances, and I wouldn't change a thing. I was not mean or malicious, I told the truth to everyone involved. Maybe one day this person will realize this, but who knows, maybe they will stay in denial for a long time to come. 
I realize that I expected with unwavering faith that this person would treat me as well as I treated them. It was a big mistake that thankfully was short lived! 

The truth isn't always something one wants to hear, but in the end, as I have learned, it is necessary. Life doesn't always work out the way that we want it to, I don't think it does for anyone, but I'm not upset, nor do I regret what occurred. 

This person went out of their way to try and punish me for telling the truth. How pathetic! There is absolutely no recourse upon me for telling the truth, which I told the person who called me to discuss these facts, and that they were wasting my time and I hung up on them. If you don't like what I have to say, don't listen or read it :) I was not in the wrong and I don't have to justify myself to anyone, a fact that I reveled in when this person called. I didn't answer their questions nor did I entertain anything they had to say. I said my piece, and now it's over. And this little blonde is pleased as punch! 

If they had just be honest with themselves and those of us around them, it would not have ended up in such a terrible mess. And more so, didn't they realize that I'm not afraid to tell the truth? Did they not realize even for an instant how strong I am? Just because I was phased by your lies, doesn't mean I'm anything like you.   

At the end of the day, it was just a blip in time for me, a bad experience, one that I learned from, and I will say this, it hasn't affected me as a person, what I believe or what I think of people. I am writing this to remind you the reader, that some people are sneaky, they are uncaring, petty and above all insecure, but it only takes a moment to recognize this. 
The person who is responsible for this mess has some things to sort out on their own. And that is unfortunate but true. I had wanted to help them and gave them unwavering faith and support, until I was burned in the process. 

But so what! One spineless weasel that passes through your life isn't anything to worry about! Besides, worrying about things like this gives you wrinkles! The next time someone treats you unfairly think this as you stare them in the eye, realizing how weak of a person they truly are:

And then get yourself out of that situation as soon as possible! Do not bother having a long conversation in which you try to rationalize with the weasel, they are unable to do so because they are too busy trying to come up with what they think the right answer for you is. There isn't a right or wrong answer when it comes to feelings, there is only the truth. 

If a person has any type of backbone, sense of self and moral fortitude, they will easily be able to tell the truth. It is much more difficult to become a lying weasel - no matter who is pushing you in one direction or the other - than it is to tell the truth to everyone around you. 

A very wise man once told me "Don't let the bastards get you down!" and ever since he said that, it has resonated every time I encounter yet another bastard. Let's be honest, the world is full of them. Unfortunately sometimes they trick you into thinking that they are a good person, but that soon becomes evident. 

I have learned in this past week that some people are incapable of making their own decisions and are too concerned with what other people think or want them to do. Be the stronger, better person, and be one that is able to make decisions with unequivocal strength. Do what YOU want in life, not what anyone else wants you to do. This is your life, you've only got the one, so go out and live it exactly how you want to and above all else be happy!! Make the most of every single day, and wake up with a smile on your face every single morning! 

Don't burn your bridges, they are your biggest support system. Live and love each and every day as if it were your last. 

Treat the people who treat you well like gold, they are priceless. 


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